I’m a 3rd or 4th yr university student. I was hoping to graduate in 2010 ut i wont get enough credits finished by then so it looks like 2011 would be it… if i do graduate in 2011, it would have been 5 frickin years in university.
I was all happy and excited abt going to university but since i’ve started, i can only think about finishing. I HATE SCHOOL. I hate everything about it, i am going crazy.
right now.. i can’t concentrate on assignments, that is my main problem. I can do quizzes and exams, no problem. But when it comes down to me going home and doing these various assignents and quizzes… i just can’t do it. I dont understand why!!
I turned off the tv, i’ve eaten, i’m in a quiet place… all that nice stuff thats supposed to be "study friendly" but i can’t concentrate on anything. I’ve only done 1 paragraph of a 5 page summary in two weeks… I’m at my wits end because at this rate i would fail all my courses and take even longer to graduate.
The government is paying for me to go to school for 5 yrs. If i drop out or miss a semester, i have to pay for the missed semester or for the entire time i’ve been going to school before dropping out……
I dont know what to do, i’m going crazy… somebody please help me.
I work full time and go to class on evenings. My work environment isn’t stressful at all so work is not negatively impacting my school lif. I even have time at work to do assignments. But… it never gets past a paragraph or two.
I am also married but my marrige life doesn’t bother my school life either. My husband is really supportive but he thinks that i don’t try hard enough.
I try to give myself incentives and rewards. But that only makes me feel worse because no matter how hard i try… it still never gets done and i end up crying over my laptop because its frustrating that even the little petty incentives and rewards are unattainable…
(OMG you sound so much like me its scary) Except I have already failed a year. I am actually crying today because I could not study for a major repeat examination. I cant concentrate at work either but as i need to motivate myself more to do this assignment which is done pretty much on my own its worse. i know the root cause of the problem however in my case is due to past experience which has affected my concentration. I am working on that but its gotton really bad at the moment. I wonder if its something similar thats causing your problem, maybe not. With the aim of being supportive and not patronising I think that your case is not that bad especially as you hav not mentioned work being a problem. If all else fails and you are at breaking point I think you should talk to your doctor and ask about medication that may help even if is only temporally. I am very much against retalin or any of those meds and try to cope with these problems through other coping mechanisms but am actually considering it at the moment.
Il give you one piece of advice that i wished i had taken so that i wouldnt fail and that is try and ask your lecturers or the lecturer who is a gotoo for your year for help youd be surprised there are probably other people who feel like you and who have asked for help and not told anyone. You could probably submit pieces to them so that you constantly feel that pressure so that you dont procrastinate. Also try the counsellor they actually help people who have your problem. It may be physiological and caused by other issues also. I hope you get on well any best of luck. Sorry if i sound kinda depressing I dont think youl fail.
Also do you get pannicky because you dont believe in yourself and feel youl fail ,i used to sometimes, you need to overcome this and try to believe in yourself if you do.
Also I was inspired by a friend of mine who on her day off completed half of her assignment. Maybe you should try and say im going to do it today and if you are unsuccessful that day dont give up persist every day until you complete one thing and the next day try again . Treat it maybe like trying to give up junk food. Im not sure if this is recommendable but I try to think that I dont know what will happen at the weekend or tomorrow or whatever that will prevent me from doing the assignment then with the aim to motivate myself to do it in the present and prevent procrastination.
maybe trying to have a more get up and go attitude to life in general might help you. maybe you should try to think im going to do my best at the things i need to do today also.
Try to find out what exactly it is about assignments that you cant get your head around maybe you need specific advice on these from a lecturer or a student tutor.
November 16th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
Go out with friends,, Don’t take studies too seriously,, Its just a matter of clearing your mind with those stuffs,, just enjoy it.!!
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Ugh dude, thats whats happening to me right now =/
in high school !
At least you graduated highschool. LOL.
I doubt i can.
Yeah I’ve tried everything, to stop my distractions but i just CANT focus.
So then I went to my doctor who referred me to a pediatrician, who thus, diagnosed me with ADD.
Not the hyperactive one but the attention deficit one, but I guess it all makes sense because I have ALL the symptoms.
I’m not saying you have it or anything, but maybe theres something else, think outside the box or something LOL.
Yeah, I’m still going crazy because I might not be able to graduate. HIGHSCHOOL, thats leading me into worse things like depression. Sucks.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adult_attention-deficit_disorder#Signs_and_symptoms
uhm maybe you should check that out.
It certainly helped me.
November 16th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
When you’re doing an assignment, make rewards for yourself when you finish something or get a page done on a paper. Like if you love ice cream, say you can’t have it until you do this quiz. This sounds stupid, but it really works (at least for me).
However, in the back of your mind I know all you’re thinking about is hating school and that’s probably why you’re unable to do your assignments.
Since you can do quizzes and exams without a problem, I would also try doing all of your assignments while at school instead of taking them home. Go to the library or a computer room or something and do it there.
Five years isn’t that bad to be at school, really. I went for 4 and a half and most students at my school didn’t graduate at 4 years. Usually 5. And all of them were serious about school, they just didn’t want to overload themselves on classes.
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:56 pm
Please speak to your personal tutor about it. Every university has counsellors to help you through this kind of thing. Please don’t be afraid to make use of them.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:04 am
(OMG you sound so much like me its scary) Except I have already failed a year. I am actually crying today because I could not study for a major repeat examination. I cant concentrate at work either but as i need to motivate myself more to do this assignment which is done pretty much on my own its worse. i know the root cause of the problem however in my case is due to past experience which has affected my concentration. I am working on that but its gotton really bad at the moment. I wonder if its something similar thats causing your problem, maybe not. With the aim of being supportive and not patronising I think that your case is not that bad especially as you hav not mentioned work being a problem. If all else fails and you are at breaking point I think you should talk to your doctor and ask about medication that may help even if is only temporally. I am very much against retalin or any of those meds and try to cope with these problems through other coping mechanisms but am actually considering it at the moment.
Il give you one piece of advice that i wished i had taken so that i wouldnt fail and that is try and ask your lecturers or the lecturer who is a gotoo for your year for help youd be surprised there are probably other people who feel like you and who have asked for help and not told anyone. You could probably submit pieces to them so that you constantly feel that pressure so that you dont procrastinate. Also try the counsellor they actually help people who have your problem. It may be physiological and caused by other issues also. I hope you get on well any best of luck. Sorry if i sound kinda depressing I dont think youl fail.
Also do you get pannicky because you dont believe in yourself and feel youl fail ,i used to sometimes, you need to overcome this and try to believe in yourself if you do.
Also I was inspired by a friend of mine who on her day off completed half of her assignment. Maybe you should try and say im going to do it today and if you are unsuccessful that day dont give up persist every day until you complete one thing and the next day try again . Treat it maybe like trying to give up junk food. Im not sure if this is recommendable but I try to think that I dont know what will happen at the weekend or tomorrow or whatever that will prevent me from doing the assignment then with the aim to motivate myself to do it in the present and prevent procrastination.
maybe trying to have a more get up and go attitude to life in general might help you. maybe you should try to think im going to do my best at the things i need to do today also.
Try to find out what exactly it is about assignments that you cant get your head around maybe you need specific advice on these from a lecturer or a student tutor.
References :